“I’m going out with my friends, my mother won’t let me go. Everyone goes out and sits in the café after training, and if I don’t sit down they bully me. Then I go home with my mother – I stubbornly do many things that shouldn’t be done. I can understand that later. And my mother should Also to understand that I’m growing up. The words were spoken by a 17-year-old teenager while talking about the little ‘nos’ in life. He said: “One of my friends tried to commit suicide twice. He has a lot of courage.
According to the survey, the tendency to commit suicide is high among high school students. According to survey data conducted by the Aanchal Foundation, 310 students in schools, colleges and universities in the country committed suicide in 2024 – of whom 46.1 percent were secondary school students. According to the report, they compared suicide data for 2024 with previous years. It can be seen that in 2022, the number of students who committed suicide in schools, colleges and universities in the country was 532. In 2023 there were 513 people. The total number of students who committed suicide in the recently ended 2024 year is 310. Among them are school, college, school and university students. Sociologists say that this time is adolescence. Teenagers undergo different changes. Those who cannot adapt to those changes and learn to act rationally, choose the path of suicide.
What kind of stress do children face at this age? Is this pressure new now, or has this type of pressure been present in society before? They believe it is important for parents and children to participate in this conversation.
When Farhana Mannan, founder of Shishab, was asked if there was any problem in our upbringing, she said: “There is a kind of communication gap between the child and his parents. Parents may have a rough idea of what a child will be like at each age, but there is a gap in the conversation about how Preparing for that trip. Suppose a child is spending his high school years, many things happen to him, which he may not be able to tell because you want to avoid a parent’s reaction, but both parties must understand that just as the parent’s reaction is normal, it is normal Also, the child does not say Everything. But they both need to talk about this situation so that there is a common place between them.
He said: “We always say these two words ‘friend’ and ‘friendship’ to the child in parenting. So what do we say to a friend? In reality, neither party will tell the other everything. By understanding this, it is important to create an environment in which the child can think In which his parents are a refuge in areas of confusion, it is very important to free the child from such pressures that make him win, and deserve to be at the heart of everything, and to be the best in everything.
Pointing out several types of pressure, Zubaida Nasreen, professor of the Department of Anthropology at Dhaka University, said: “Students suffer from a mental crisis during adolescence, as was the case before. But now life has become so personal that he cannot go anywhere to share His frustration and confusion. Earlier, he used to get relief from many things by playing in the playground and with his friends now his companion is the computer so that the student can come out of this situation – that is why schools and colleges are required to have psychologists And advisors, which is not available in our country, we think they are small, what they need but how people will overcome the crisis, must be shared with someone.
Referring more to the conflict with the family at present, he said: “Earlier I thought about romanticizing the relationship between parent and child. The current crisis is the lack of understanding with the guardian.
When Tansen Rose, President of the Aanchal Foundation, was asked about the kind of tension among students in secondary school, he said: “You have to go through different changes during adolescence, at that time there is a problem of understanding with society. At this time emotional places cannot be dealt with.” There is a lack of respect in the family, and a generational gap is created with the parents.
Tansen Rose said: “There is a negative impact of social media on children and teenagers at this age. Many times they label the issue of suicide in the media as a “matter of courage” but they make the wrong decision.
Psychiatrist Atiqul Islam cites “parental pressure” as the main cause of stress. He said: “Parents tend to pass on expectations to their children. Parents impose their future on the future of the children. Without taking into account whether it is difficult for him to bear those pressures, he believes that what he is doing is for the child’s benefit. He said that most of the teenage cases he sees It is due to problems in communicating with parents.